THE WINDS OF CHANGE!

To All Members:

I have changed our site title.  We are no longer, "A Walk Through Abby's World."

We are "THE WINDS OF CHANGE"

 There are no graceful reflections for those who are going through domestic abuse, or are being traumatized through the Social Services and the court system.  The only time any kind of reflections, (good or bad,) can come to those, is after everything is all said and done.  In most cases, it comes later as opposed to sooner of a heart breaking battlefield that has been lost.  It took me quite a few years afterward before I could even sum up the courage to examine what had happened and examine myself closely.
In the beginning of my self-discovery, I learned, don’t waste your whole life trying to get back what was taken away...just do the best you can to pick up the pieces and continue on. That sounds really hard, doesn’t it?  What if I were to tell you, it is completely possible?  Would you believe me?  I think at the time of me losing everything that was the dearest to my heart, I may not have even wanted to read, hear or would have thought of this as a bunch of garbage.  I was so sunk down in my own self-pity for what I had lost, and I was filled with regret, hatred, anger, plus any other negative emotion known to mankind.
Then one day, a fact of reality slapped me hard in the face while I was working on my book, Graceful Reflections.  The reality was, I was still being held a victim of my abuser!  I jumped up from my chair, letting it crash to the floor and began to pace.  If my family would have been home at that time, they would have thought I turned into a mad woman!  Anger filled me, like you would never believe and I screamed out, “NO WAY!!  I WON’T GIVE YOU THAT SATISFACTION, YOU SON-OF-A-BITCH!!”  That’s when I realized that I was still being held prisoner of mental and emotional abuse.  I thought I had left that behind when I had left him many, many years ago, but I was very wrong.  I still carried his abusiveness with me and was allowing it to torture me daily for all of that time I thought I was free.  It was time to completely and totally free myself…  

In my book, Graceful Reflections, there is a part in there where Candice, the main character, is a Domestic Abuse Speaker and is speaking to a group of women.  She poses three very important questions to her audience.

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“How many of you can find it in your heart to forgive your abuser for all
of the emotional, mental and physical suffering that he has inflicted on you…How many of you can truly and completely forgive him?
“The room became quieter and more still as many women sat stunned by this question. Candice looked around at the familiar sights she had seen of herself in earlier times of her life. Dull eyes, broken hearts and bruises were her audience.
“Now, how many of you can forgive yourself?”
Gasps were emitted from among the group, Candice chuckled quietly as
she could almost read their thoughts.
“I know, you’re probably thinking, you must be crazy woman!  I’m the
victim here… forgive myself? …Right?” Candice paused before she continued, “that’s exactly what I’m saying. If you can learn to forgive yourself then the healing can begin.

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 I’m going to try and cover as many issues as I can.  I want to help as many people possible with helping them learn how to rid themselves of the abusive vise-grip and heal their spirits in the process.   We all need a healthy way of thinking to try and help others.  Please feel free to leave a comment behind, or if you want to get in touch with me privately, you may do so via emailing me at: abigaillurae@live.com   It’s time for change and this is the starting point…  Maybe a better us can bring about a better government.  A better government, better laws…  We need to pave the way for others to not have to suffer as we have.

                                                                                               -Abby

 Published in May of 2008, this was Abigail's first book to appear on the market.  This book is available in all major online bookstores.

 Published, March, 2009, this is Abigail's, "just for fun," suspense novel, consisting of 380 pages.  This book is available in all major online bookstores.